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Loading ...I think we’ve all heard the common belief that “men value sex more than love”, but is it true? To find out the answer, we conducted a study on WhatsYourPrice.com by comparing the average price of a first date between men who are seeking love versus men who are seeking sex. The results may surprise you: Men value love $73 more than sex!
Results of our study: Men seeking casual or no-strings-attached relationships paid an average of $121 for a first date, whereas single men looking for serious long-term relationships paid an average of $194 for the opportunity of finding love. However, men who seek only casual or no-strings attached relationships tend to be serial daters and more prolific, paying for first dates over 2.1 times more, than commitment-minded men.
Three Tips for Women Seeking Love
So what does the result of this study mean for all the girls who are looking for love? Well, the study translates directly into a few important, yet practical first date advice for women who are searching for love online. Pay attention to the following:
1. Generosity: A woman who wants love should take note of where men takes her on the first date, and how much he is willing to spend. Men who seek love will treat women with greater respect and generosity than men who only want sex. So yes, everything else being equal there is a big difference between a man who takes you to McDonald’s and the man who takes you to a 5-star Michelin rated restaurant on the first date!
2. Patience: Men who seeks love are consistently more patient than men who only want sex. When they say patience is a virtue, it truly is. If you want a man to love you, don’t sleep with him on the first, second or third date. Make him wait. If he’s rushing or pressuring you into sex, then chances are good he’s not too interested in love.
3. His Eyes Tell All: Pay attention! Next time you go on a first date, take a close look at the man’s eyes. Men who seek love will shower the woman he wants with focused and undivided attention, while men interested only in sex will likely scour the room for other women.
So, Let’s Do It For Love…
And talking about the question of love versus sex, when you visit the website this week, you will notice a big change to the WhatsYourPrice.com homepage. The new homepage, and the message it carries is in part an effort to change our entire approach at marketing and branding the website.
While the original homepage featuring “a man with 5 beautiful women holding price tags” accomplishes our goal of shocking people and getting the maximum amount of press coverage — which we did, the new homepage is our aim at bringing the WhatsYourPrice.com dating concept to the masses. In addition to changing the homepage, we no longer be support the Adult Dating or Intimate Encounters category. This is done in line with our policy that “Sex” cannot be expected on the first date, that “No Escorts” are allowed to use our website, and any “solicitation of money in exchange for sex” is not permitted or tolerated per our Terms of Use agreement. Instead, members will now see a new “Casual Dating / No Strings Attached” relationship category.
A generous male member wrote in to us this week telling us he was smitten-ed by an attractive female member he met on the website. In his note to us, he quoted Hilary Cooper: ”Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away!” In that light, I’m hoping WhatsYourPrice.com will help you meet that right person or persons who can take your breath away. Until the next post, good luck in your search!
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if you say men value love more than sex by $79 what does that say about use that dont make a lot of money and cant really aford 100+ and the cost of the date. i agree with the only sex part willing to pay 2.5x more because you could get a profesional at those prices. so if your trying to promote love on this site and not sex by romoving the adult dating option why dont you remove the SD/SB option to distinguish your self more from your other site, that that is its purpous. so ya so fare im disapointed with this site because I was under the impreshion that it was for those of us that dont have luck on other sites a second chance and want love but are over looked because we dont have the player skills that inatialy get the atractive womens attention.
I got this reply today and thought it was strange:
You were the first woman I bid on. Since that time I have been on several «dates» and the results have varied a lot. One conclusion I have come to is that I won’t pay anyone more than $100 just to meet them for the first time. Too many flakes and women who are not like they present themselves on their profiles. It’s just not worth the cost risk for a blind date.
Since I had offerred you $200 I felt you would no longer be intersted. That is why I haven’t contacted you.
Dang queen sorry to hear that…his experience has been my experience. I’ve decided its time to weed out flakes and women only looking for sugar daddies since thats really not love. So I feel for him, but also feel for you too because he obviously does not want to stick up to his end of the deal either.
It’s true.. As this site grows I am seeing the gap between the common guy and the “sugar daddy” close. And this seems to reflect for the attractive members as well. I have more and more ladies accepting less for first date encounters than previous, and many of these ladies are initiating offers for really cheap..
I think this is a good thing for the site, I don’t want to keep seeing the same people here as I do on other online dating websites.. I want to see the girl next door, and I want to ask her out..
I dunno, I never have been too good with talking to women, but this site has kind of changed that experience.. I can use my success as an icebreaker and really get to know these amazing women.
Anyways, just thought I would drop my two cents. Good article, I am glad you are taking a strong stance against escorts on the site.
NeverStop,
Would you like to share some of your experience with people who may be new to this concept? I’m actually working on a book to discuss and promote the “Whats Your Price” dating movement. It would be good to get some real life stories from our members. If you’d love to share your experience, do email me your contact information to my email: brandon at whatsyourprice.com
Thanks.
Brandon
I’ve noticed the same thing I quit coming here much for about a month because I started dating someone I met out in the real world. But that kind of went the wrong direction. So I’ve returned. But when I came back my box had several interesting offers from ladies who seem more serious then others have so perhaps we will see what happens.
And to Brandon, very happy to see you guys are taking a stance against escorts and pay for sex. Almost feel like I helped that happen by mentioning in previous threads. So far I have had bad luck though, underage girls, girls just needing the extra cash. In fact never heard from any of them after they got their money and he date was over except for one who actually moved in next door to me a few weeks ago. She has a horrible tendency to only talk to me when she needs more money and finally just told her that it isn’t happening. Paying for a first date is interesting but as I’ve said before definitely not going to pay a girl’s rent for her.
I like how the focus is changing. Now I feel a little safer telling my sister and friends about the site.
I believe patience is definitely true, as well as the eyes. As for generous, it depends if riches haven’t stunted the man’s brain growth and he expects his money to do all the work. A famous poet once said “sexuality and creativity both aim for the same bliss”.
I believe this to be extremely true. For one of my dates, I went on a series of dates and built them up to become more and more romantic, but using my own creativity. The last was a killer and so incredibly fun. It really amazed me the effect it has on the woman.
How cute bobby!
Neverstop….I’m glad you are happy, but personally I see more men offering more money than in the beginning and I don’t know why you would be “taking a stance” on a site called What’s Your Price anyways. Escorting is legal, has nothing to do with sex. That’s why we still have our freedom and sites like this can exist.
As much as I respect your opinion, I have to ask if a woman can’t go to What’s Your Price to make money for dating, than where exactly is that venue because apparently their is a market for legitimate Sugar dating and this site explicitly states Get Paid To Date Guaranteed. I’m shocked when this bothers men who come here that women want money and find it amusing that you offered just your “two cents”. Very telling.
The problem I see is that sites like Match and POF have a lot of men who don’t want to commit and could possibly be called players so this is the alternative to men who may not want to commit, are honest about it and have something else to offer. So why is it I see men complaining on What’s Your Price about finding women who want to make money? Could it be that men just don’t know what they want to give and want to escape any responsibility in the process?
“The problem I see is that sites like Match and POF have a lot of men who don’t want to commit and could possibly be called players so this is the alternative to men who may not want to commit, are honest about it and have something else to offer.”
Remarkable point and great way of putting it!!! Wow.
But I see Neverstop’s point. Maybe it’s the word “escort” and a new term needs to be created that people could identify with. The word escort has the connotation of nothing genuine involved. The man gets used like toilet paper just as many men use a woman. I have no problem with a woman getting paid either, for as many dates as she wants. If the man has the means and the woman is in need, by all means, pay her. Or maybe my idea of an escort is too closed minded. But this seems to be an issue I can’t put my finger on. Maybe later.
But I always love reading Blue’s comments. They’re quite good and get me thinking.
Haha, Aww, thanks Bobby the K
You are right & I do see Neverstop’s point, I just get upset when I hear people wanting to put the kabash on something good in life that works for me and is perfectly healthy.
The site is good because you can decide between several choices which category you would like to be in depending on what you want. Some men would love the chance to be used like TP I have to chuckle about that one. I’ve even had men beg me to be used! LOL
For men that want something more meaningful they have an option for that. In fact five out of the six options are available for that and only one is an indication of Sugar Dating which is completely at odds with the way the site was named and offered to women as a way to pay for college and guaranteed that we are paid to date generous men.
What happens is you meet better quality of people here and make more intimate connections than you would anywhere else in my opinion. It works for whatever reason because it eliminates a lot of guessing games. Gentlemen can relax and be themselves here and not have to pretend they will be emotionally available for a woman when they are not in a position to be. I’m not going to be offended by a gentleman who is married or has no intention of catering to my emotional needs as they are my personal feelings and for my personal relationships.
I hear you and understand you about the term escort and maybe you can think of something better but it simply means arm candy, entertainment or companionship despite how the word has evolved to disguise other activities.
But for many men, being entertained for an evening or having a date for the office party, that’s all they want and they don’t want to talk to us in the next day if they don’t feel like it. Which is fine with me, but these gentlemen probably aren’t going to be expressing their feelings in blog posts for obvious reasons. Sounds like some of the men on the blog feel differently and that is understandable but their is something for everyone here. Seeing that the site is aptly named, I would expect people who are here to be more accepting of those of us who are doing it strictly for Sugar Dating.
Ugh, my other response to you is awaiting moderation again. In the meantime I just read your post from the last article about turning the tables.
Not sure I read your post correctly and I’m trying to understand which is the man & which is the woman in the scenario.
Just from my experience, most men want women to be interested in them, but don’t want to be held accountable to be “too” interested in the women lest they feel the need to run screaming for the hills. lol
If you really want to find a relationship with a woman here than just say you are not interested in spending money after the first date. That should scare any gold diggers away very quickly and if you really like someone and want to help some of these women out who need it, than feel good about being generous and not expecting anything in return. Just do it because it feels right.
I’ll follow that advice. Thanks! Great reply. Superb!
I like your comments Blue. I’ve been one to complain about some of the women on here…but your right there are options and they need to be honestly selected. In a lot of cases they’re not, but eh doesn’t matter I suppose.
But when I hear escort I hate to say it my mind runs to prostitution. So I guess instead of saying escort we should use “prostitute”? I forget there are escorts that only do the dating thing and parties and arm candy and nothing more which is alright both parties know thats what it is all about so no harm no foul. When I contact a girl on here I like her to clarify what she expects, I’m not playing games when I say I’m looking for someone who’s serious and expect the same.
And honestly I don’t even mind if the girl isn’t interested in being a girlfriend, being friends and meeting new people is always entertaining, especially since I’m new to my area. But at the end of the day your right we should quit complaining about issues that aren’t really issues. Everything can be solved and decided upon if the time is taken to get to know each other when you meet or begin communication so if a person isn’t happy after one date they just need to keep plugging away and being patient.
So just to clarify I only really complain about game players on here and liars. I know you ladies run into guys that do the same probably more guys play games then girls so I can only imagine what you ladies go through on here. But I do like the changes and hope they can attract more people.
Thanks Tyler. The guys are really nice here I must say. They are who they say they are, kind and gentlemen like. I’ve had one push for sex to the point of being a total turn off.
The men are very successful. The most successful in nyc so they can be very picky, a little blase’ at times and lacking any sort of connection because they are cherry picking through the site. But they are all nice and great dates just a little old for me to consider seriously having a relationship with and I feel they are also not interested in a real relationship but would stop short of any kind of meddling in their lives. They are here for a purpose that is clear. NSA only. So they kind of want to spend their money meeting lots of interesting women, getting to know them, and like the feeling of women trying to impress them for a change. Then I have met the occasional working class guy who just wants to have fun. That’s not my thing unless they have the means to support me.
So for some women, they might feel as though these men are playing games or are a disappointment but I expect that and I’m okay with it. That to me is what they are paying for. Honestly, you just have to realize their is a certain set of men who have no intention of sleeping with a woman but would rather dismiss her. He either has the money to buy a famous model or they have a very particular interest that needs to be satisfied in the elite classes. The heart wants what the heart wants and they can afford it. They are never good looking guy that does that. It’s the strangest thing I have encountered but I’ve had it happen elsewhere as well. It’s like they want you to feel not pretty. Good looking younger men seem to be the easiest to get along with, and the least stuck on themselves at times. It’s a little confusing but maybe it’s a generation thing.
Yeah I can see guys that are super successful and just doing things that way. Although I wonder if its their heart thats wanting that in all honesty, I think its more of an ego thing for those wealthy guys out there to show off different model-type arm candy to the boys. Although you saying good looking younger men are easiest to get along with really surprised me…not sure why it surprises me though.
Tyler
Things do happen in life an we have do deal with impatient misunderstanding people as well.
We do get our own dishonest or misleading people on here as well. I was suppose to go on a date last thursday, I messages the person 3 hours before our date and asked if we could move it to the weekend or next week as I wasn’t able to pull away from work and have never heard back from him. He could have just been upset but with how much he was offering me he probably had other intentions and makes it feel like he was playing a game. Ive been patient when people have needed to reschedule an all i wanted was the same. Just know your not alone
This site is new and it seems some of you just wanna fight over every effort they make to improve it. If you hate the site you do not have to keep logging in . The site is called whats your price- so I would think it would be best to pay more as not to insult people by low offers. Finding love on here might be hard as the way you met could be considered strange and all I hear is guys telling me a friend signed them up so already they make the girl feel like the fool for being on the site.
Well said Queen!!
Thanks blue! ~Hugs~
Hi everyone, I am kinda new at these.. any advise for me from experienced ladies out there Please. Thank you..:)
I feel the same way blue. I get much better relationships with broke or middle class hot guys. I am sugar dating thinking i would meet better men but sadly they seem to be way worse! Thwy need to pay me good for the high risk of meeting a molesting turd!
Oh wow! LOL Thanks for the laugh.
Up is down and down is up sometimes in this world. You deserve better than some molesting turd that’s for sure. But you know who is the best? The rich hot guys are the nicest of all of them. Who knew? They don’t have to try and get anything from someone else, and they don’t feel the need to put people down to make themselves feel better. Hang in there. You are good at seeing through people. That’s a great gift to have. ~Hugs~
I’m just being an ass here, but Michelin uses a three, not five star rating system.
Is anyone else having problems with their page? I get an error page whenever I try to see who winked at me and the help page.
Brandon – From my personal experience on this website as well as Seeking Arrangement (and more traditional dating websites) this particular website has a problem due to the diversity of desires on this website:
on the one hand, women are interested in:
1)earning money from dating/companionship escort-like transactions
2)using this to initiate a sugar-daddy relationship
3)searching for a serious partnership.
on the other, men are searching for
1) pay-for-sex encounters
2) Simple, I’m married or I’m in a relationship or I don’t have time for a real relationship but I’d love to have the opportunity to have intelligent conversations with “real” women
3) the beginning of sugar-daddy relationships
4) real relationships.
Major problems arise because of the lack of clarity of what both parties are “looking for” – and to be honest, I think that most women would be more than happy to accept 100-200 dollars for dinner and drinks with almost anyone…and to go along with/play down their own desires.
I suggest you add a third category to profiles on this website: “Ideally, I’m hoping this date will lead to/be…”
Or maybe checkboxes:
I hope this date will be the prelude to:
1) a sugar-daddy relationship
2) a no-strings-attached, financially beneficial relationship
3) a relationship
4) Nothing – I hope to have a good time with the individual I go out with, and if a limerick, wow-we’ve-got-unbeatable-chemistry experience comes, I’m open to that too.
The checkboxes for types of relationship is useful, but I find that most people check multiple boxes, but are really hoping for/desire one thing…and the question “what do you really want” is such an awkward one…
Excellent! Well put and well devised. The ambiguity is horrible. I’d rather have a woman tell me she has absolutely no interest in a relationship with me and only wants me for my money than be left in an ambiguous realm and thinking there’s a real chance with her. Meg, you are a doll for putting it so well and so succinctly.
Meg,
Thank you for the suggestions. All great points, and I’ll make sure we work your suggestions into the website soon.
Regards,
Brandon
Maybe I”m missing something. I like the K.I.S.S. principle. If you introduce a third category isn’t that redundant if not more confusing? It reminds me of those questions you get on a test that kind of stump you but force you to answer anyways and leave you feeling like you just sold your soul a little bit.
1 & 2 are the same. 3 does not clear up which type of relationship like the options we already have do which would leave me with more questions about the other person.
Saying ‘nothing’ in 4 says even less about what a person is looking for than what we have now. Sounds like Taoism or a Zen Koan I can’t make sense of it because I never heard the expression before perhaps.
Many people come here for one thing and are open to others. All a person can do is check off the boxes that apply, go on the date and decide what they want to do with that person upon meeting.
People are looking for the Sugar Date, Casual dating or Serious Relationships. What am I leaving out?
very well said…I’ve been known before a date from this site just to through out the “what do you really want” line, just because it makes it so much easier knowing for sure if she just wants the money. So far though it has just been wanting the money, so I’m slowly giving up on the site. Throwing cash into the equation just makes it a sloppy situation for both sides. But I guess it works out perfectly if your a guy or lady looking for a SD/SB relationship. Other than that really not seeing a real relationship pop up off of here.
Although it would be good if everyone was honest and checked the correct box instead of all of them just to draw in the schmucks to make more money. And guys probably do the same to just playing the field.
Anyway I’m not hating on this site, just beginning to think it wasn’t meant for me and should just be turned into an addendum to seeking arrangement because thats all it really is.
Yeah, they should call the site sugar daddy light.
I bet if we asked men why they even bother dating they might say for the sex. Why is so hard to understand that females want to date generous men.
Absolutely!
Ditto
@queen
I agree, how much simpler can it be?
women want security with a man at any age and men want to feel virile by being with a younger woman.
men/women 101
I’m looking for any of the types of relationships. It all really depends upon what happens when we meet.
I met a great hot young guy that made lots of money and he paid me a lot, but he only wanted a no strings relationship. Then the older single guys may want a real relationship. Seems that most men want to play the field until about 42.
i think this site say it all,its called WHAT’S YOUR PRICE!! i would suggest any man that has a problem with paying the amount asked should actually join match.com and POV,u will have plenty of free dates,this site is special in it’s own way,it’s unique,and not for the faint hearted,excuse me if this comes across mean,but i just dont know how best to put it,but hope you do understand what i mean,its a platform for those people who are open to whatever relationship they choose but the difference is they get paid for the dates,it does help to read up on the sites before joining,that way you wont feel ripped off